Karen, This post might come off as a little nutty to some, but I'm gonna put it out there anyway.
Have you ever considered asking H to lay off on the porn and see what happens with your R?
I mean, if he's got enough sexual mojo to get him through, let's say, 2 times per week, and he chooses to use porn to take care of it, then I am not surprised that he has little energy left to ML. He's spent!
I think his argument that most men use porn is probably sound, but then again you could fight that by saying, Well most men are sex starved and would rather ML to their wives!
In other words, using porn as an outlet is okay if you are using it to deal with the excess, but to use up all your primary sexual energy?? And have nothing left for anything else? That aint cool!
I realize my timing probably really sucks, as he is leaving tomorrow, but I happen to have the time this morning and wanted to throw it out.
Whatever you have to do, throw the man down, tie him up, whatever, ML tonight and don't let the whole week apart be nothing but resentment and frustration from your end.
I see, in your sitch, a man who dearly loves his wife but "wastes" what little sexual energy he has on silly stuff.
Whatcha think.
Btw, I'm glad to see that you are feeling better and I loved your dream you had. I would want more and more of those. Any contact from the little one at all would be welcome.
