Quote: H simply doesn't see me as the "someone to talk to." It isn't a reflection on me so much as it is a masculine gesture of not leaning on me when I am trying to heal from something traumatic. What is with this? It makes me angry and frustrated
Karen, I am sorry for your recent loss. I pray that your physical and emotional healing will go well.
I don't think this (above quote) is necessarily a masculine gesture. Someone real close to me suffers from something similar...
I don't know that I would label it as the inability to see you as someone he can talk to. I do agree that there is probably a sense of protection involved.
For instance, if I'm going through a crisis that leaves me questioning the goodness of God and whether or not I am going to come out of it with any faith to speak of - how do you lay that on someone who is going through the same crisis you are, without experiencing massive concerns that you're going to contribute to someone else's spiritual demise?
How to you scream out your grief, give voice to your anger, howl out your frustration - to the person who is going through the very same thing you are - without concern that adding your load might just be the straw that breaks the camel's back?
This is probably even more true, if you are the person in the relationship who can and does more easily give vent to what you're feeling. Because the person who isn't as given (whatever the reason) toward expressing him/herself is going to be even more aware of how vulnerable you are and not want to dump anything more on you.
