Quote: I had this weird momentary thought of having a burial. Then it seemed maudlin. The best I can do is to take care of my body, exercise, eat right and try again. The doctor isn't worried - just old eggs probably. Prayers are MUCH appreciated.
Karen, to have a burial or some sort of ceremony would NOT be maudlin in the least. What an unkind thing to say to yourself... Maudlin implies an overly sentimental reaction that is disproportionate to the event. Losing this embryo-- whatever you believe about the origins of life-- certainly is worthy of sadness and grieving. As you said, it's not like a regular period. There is a life, a spirit, that had the potential of coming into the body as your child. For whatever reason, that potential was not brought to fruition. And it's totally understandable that you will feel the loss and want to acknowledge it. The "eat right and get on with life" comment-- although good advice-- is the head (logic and reason) trying to dominate the heart (your instincts).
My own personal belief is that souls choose their parents and that the soul that would have been your child has been near you for a while and may still be near you. Sometimes souls only need to be in the body for a short time to fulfill their purpose in this life and then they move back to the spirit side.
I also believe that when the time comes for you to cross over, you will meet this spirit (and the other one, too) and recognize them as your children. [Please no theological flaming... these are words of comfort, not meant to convert anyone.]
Anyway, I think it's absolutely appropriate for you to observe this loss in some way... maybe by planting some flowering thing in your yard, or buying some small, sweet jewelry (like a bracelet). Sometimes people try to make 4's believe that we "feel too much." Not so; our instincts are right on.
Maudlin implies an overly sentimental reaction that is disproportionate to the event. Losing this embryo-- whatever you believe about the origins of life-- certainly is worthy of sadness and grieving. As you said, it's not like a regular period. There is a life, a spirit, that had the potential of coming into the body as your child. For whatever reason, that potential was not brought to fruition. And it's totally understandable that you will feel the loss and want to acknowledge it. The "eat right and get on with life" comment-- although good advice-- is the head (logic and reason) trying to dominate the heart (your instincts). 