What about a family memorial service? Maybe you could get the clan together and pray the Rosary or something. Some kind of formal recognition seems like it would help the healing process..
Fwiw, my H is the same way. Not only do I have to use explicit language, but saying it one time (ie, for Trip 2005) would not extend to the next time. In 2006, I'd have to spell it all out again. Frustrating but at least I know what to expect.
I LOVED your line about him wanting you not as a wife but as a woman. That sums up everything I've tried to put in words before but end up stumbling. I'm fairly certain H doesn't ogle other women but I'm positive he doesn't ogle me. He seems dead in the water in this regard and a little sign of life would do wonders for the vitality of our R.
