Enjoy the horniness! I'm glad he's looking forward to it. MrH always liked the horniness until I got fat, then it was allllll over, baby. LOL He did good this last time, though.
The babies will be about 22 months apart. I am hoping everything is ok with new baby - my first test results were a little borderline but as long as the new tests show the rise in hormones that they should then things will be fine. If not, then back to the drawing board:]
Went to bed exhausted again last night and I said - "H, I would like to have sex sometime in the very near future." He said, "I'm lying on my back naked. I've done my part." I said, "No. You really have to show a bit more interest than that." H jokingly said, "You mean staying up until 11pm helping kids with their issues at the dining room table didn't equate with showing desire for sex?" I said (also jokingly) "Sex with the kids maybe." I was trying to jokingly equate that who one spends time with is the one whom one has some sort of desire to be with. True, the kids needed him AND he might also have shown desire for me by coming over once in a while for a friendly rump pat or a kiss. I'm sure we'll have sex in the next few days but I just wish that his desire were more evident. I really think that when he lies on his back at bedtime I am supposed to interpret that as an "all clear". How would you guys feel about that?
I would think that was a perfectly acceptable way to show desire once in a while.
Then there are the times when he should initiate the First Bed Contact, by reaching for you.
Then there are the times in which it is sorta mutual.
My H gets a little in this frame of mind, too. "The one who wants sex the most has to do all the work and all I have to do is lay here and be willing."
22 months sounds wonderful! I had a "borderline" result with BabyPot too. I think I just had the tests done too early. I went back several days later and did them again, and it was all clear. I'm saying my prayers for you and your sweet babe.
Thanks for the kind words about my "little ball of cells" - knowing this early is a blessing and a curse. Chance of a poor result is higher just because genetic mistakes tend to get picked up by the body early and it just looks like a late period - the chances of non-viability are up there this early on. On the other hand - I can't stand not knowing what is happening in my body so I always know this early (three times for three births I knew right away) and I always wear myself out with worry until around the 12th week or so. The hcg and progesterone were a bit low but it could have been due to a late implantation. Just had more bloodwork - I should know more tomorrow. I am always better knowing than not knowing.
I agree that there should be some sort of balance in terms of initiation. However, I am learning more and more that this IS my H's way of showing interest - one of the "subtle signs" we talk about here. Rarely, he will actually reach for me and I've never quite determined what makes that happen. I am absolutely in HOG heaven when it does and usually want to be the one reaching for him the very next day or two.
Funny, my H has often commented on how we should be one of the "sponsor couples" for marriage classes at church. I usually feel like retorting - "when we have a regular, open exchange of sexuality where I don't feel like an oversexed neurotic and you don't feel like an undersexed anxiety laden failure we'll be ready. KWIM??
Well - the next lab numbers are in. For the ladies - the hcg numbers went from 32 to 500 in seven days - that is a doubling time of a day and a half. Things look great! I feel really good - don't really feel pregnant. I never do until closer to eight weeks or so and I'm only 5 1/2 now.
H and I went on a date Friday night. We had a nice time and H initiated sex that night and we had a really good time. While we were out he was just looking for a little reassurance first though. He said, "Tell me again why sex in early pregnancy is ok." I reminded him that the "baby" is the size of an apple seed and happily burrowed in to the protective lining of the uterus. Even the most racous sex would only cause a pleasant rocking motion inside the uterus. That explanation was apparently good enough. H actually seems to look forward to the pregnant curves - the idea that it is "his baby" and "his pregnant wife" seems to give him license that he doesn't otherwise feel.
It is nice to have things on such an even keel. I have to echo HP's comment about not really knowing what it is to have your jar of sexual needs full. I am very confident that I am not that terribly demanding so I guess I'll just have to keep working on things until they come a little closer to what I am hoping for.
Karen... With both my pregancies I was very neurotic ( no surprise there) and not at all horny. You make me see what I was missing out on. Enjoy your H's attentions and hope you have an easy pregnancy.
I sometimes feel like just laying naked on my back and calling that 'initiation', but since I am the HD, it certainly wouldn't be recieved as such. No, I don't think that is at all stepping up to the plate. I guess it would sort of be like if you just laid there and told him if he wants to boink that he's welcome to, but he's got to provide all the motion etc. Doesn't hold water as far as I'm concerned.
Regarding the pregant nookie, that has always seemed be when we are at our best in bed. No anxiety over whether she'll get pg or not since it is already a done deal. Seems like pg makes her hornier too (otherwise, she only gets horny when she is ripe which meant she got pregnant 'easily', hence people's perception that we must be boinkin' like rabbits full time...I get kind tired of the comments about keeping my hands off her etc by well meaning friends and neighbors).
No, I don't think that is at all stepping up to the plate. I guess it would sort of be like if you just laid there and told him if he wants to boink that he's welcome to, but he's got to provide all the motion etc. Doesn't hold water as far as I'm concerned.