Quote: We have tried to explain it a thousand ways - Deida talks about the feminine desire for "ravishment." This is what the ladies here are talking about when we talk about pursuit.
Hi All, I'm HD husband with LD wife. We have been married 3 years & have 1 yr old daughter. I love my wife very much and I believe she still loves me. We seem to only ML every other month.
I would like to hear from the ladies on this form regarding the quote (both LD & HD ladies). I would love to ravish LDW but fear I would hurt her (emotionally). I know that "no" means no and if she flat out said "NO!" I'd stop. Problem is, I hear every excuse ever made up but rarly "No". Does an excuse = "No"? HD thinking she wants me to pursue. We once ML because I countered every excuse. Details: I rolled over and started kissing her whole body. Wife:"I'm watching TV", Me:"You can watch TV. Let me know if I get in the way". excuse#2, counter, excuse#3, counter, etc. This may not be ravishing but I feel like I forced myself onto her. She ML willingly though. I have no problems pursueing (I need spell check!) my wife. When I catch her, I need to know it's because she let me.
HoneyPot, I've read some of your thread (not all). I'm not in a position to give advice but I was wondering if your H is more like me where he has a fear of... hurting you. We need a green light to know its safe to go. Usually that green light is the wife in prusuit. He knows you want to be prusued but let him know he can never hurt you as long as he understands "NO" is no and "Not Tonight" means you'll get some if you pursue a little harder. Just a thought.
