Quote: I'm almost to the point where I might prefer an arrangement like my twice-divorced Grandmother had. She lived in Detroit and her gentleman friend lived in Ontario and every weekend they'd cross the river to get together but otherwise pretty much did their own thing.
I think my bf and I have the ideal arrangement. We each have our own houses. At my house I do most of the inside chores/cooking and he works in the garden as much as he possibly can-- he loves it. He also does stuff around my house like fixing and building things. At his house, he does most of the chores and cooking but I also help out with laundry, vacuuming, etc.
This is the first R I've ever been in where the issue of who's doing more around the house, whose turn is it, who's going to cook, etc. is a complete non-issue. We don't keep track of who pays for what-- I mean we each pay the bills associated with our own house, of course, but I'm talking about groceries and stuff. We go grocery shopping together (which we both love to do) and both of us throw stuff in the basket and one of us pays.
Re your H's response to the trip: if he wanted to let you know he was going to miss you, he could have found a better way! I think your absence will be VERY good for him. If you have your cell phone with you, maybe you can suggest some phone sex like y'all had good success with last year.
Laura Huxley (wife of Aldous) said that she felt the ideal arrangement for a couple was to have houses side by side with a drawbridge between them to be raised or lowered as needed.
