Off the Hamster Wheel, On the Slow Boat to China

[MJontheMend]

Any verbal or outward signs between "NO" and "no but maybe if you ravish me?"

I would say if the "No" is a sort of hand-slapping mommy "No" or the "No" is a calm thoughtful "No" then it likely really means "No". If it's more of a battle-of-wills among equals "No" than it might be more of a challenge than a rejection. However, my advice is probably pretty lame since I pretty much never say "No". Come to think of it, this is probably why I rarely get ravaged. My H is so oppositional he probably would go for it more forcefully if I did say "No", otoh he might just break another chunk off the kitchen counter.