The thing that frustrates me about the "ravishment" thing is that actually my H can be a pretty good "bad boy" ravisher on occasion but neither he nor I really know what brings it out. I once said "Remember when you threw me up on the bathroom sink and "did me". That was really hot.". His reply was along the lines of "Yeah, that was hot but it's not going to be happening again any time soon.". My H also has a "bad boy" component to his personality outside of the sexual. For instance, he fairly frequently does things like drive too fast in order to get a rise out of me.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
