I have found some David Deida books at the library but this particular one came from Sounds True - they sell books on tape. They can be a bit expensive but I buy them for my own sanity on my two hour daily commute. This one had me ready to turn the car around, find my H and strip him naked and whatever else came to mind after that. Deida is a very sexy writer.
I suspect that my H is a bit like yours as far as the "how do I go about that?" kind of thinking. H is a real go getter in business and in a million other ways. Sexually, he hangs back, stays a little distant, waits to see what will happen - lately he's put himself out there a bit more and gosh would I like to encourage that. I think the hanging back stuff has to do mainly with anxiety.
The first time we had any sexual contact H actually freaked out a little because he said that he had never had exactly that sensation before - I think he hyperventilated a little or something. He has gotten more comfortable since but seems to have a lot of discomfort around really taking the lead and/or trying new stuff.
I kinda feel like a sh*t right now because H just e-mailed me a couple of dates that he thought would be nice to go see a play in a local outdoor theater, with dinner before and maybe taking a little "tourist cruise" also. Very romantic. Very sweet. We'll have a great time and I will have about a 50/50 shot at sex that night. That very fact actually makes me a little resentful beforehand. I suppose I need to get over it. D@mn it - do I really have to give up my "handsome rogue" girlhood fantasies?
