Karen, I had a discussion with H last night which was essentially a variation on the "I'm just not like that" theme. In it, he conceded that he knows how I'd like to be sexually approached but he can't seem to make himself do this.
We talked and talked and the topic veered off into his career and the things that have happened. At one point, he said he was a failure at both things. I replied, No you are not a failure--you just need to apply yourself more.
His "I'll sit back and hope that good things come my way" mindset has not helped him in his career or his love life.
Anyway, he startled a bit and said, Apply myself....what does that MEAN. I remember teachers telling me that but how does one DO it?
I refrained from answering because it suddenly hit me that if you are a 'following' type of person..one who doesn't feel that fire in your belly to assist in your own destiny, then the concept of applying yourself is really going to seem daunting, if not impossible.
Personally I can't imagine being the other way.
anyhoo, I just wanted to chime in and say that him ravishing me is probably as far from his realm of possibilities as me sitting quietly back, for years on end, and hoping that good things happen but not doing anything to aid that cause.
I love the ravishing concept though and the book sounds bitchin. Did you buy it or check it out from library? You know me..gotta go the cheap route, lol.
