I am listening to the book "Enlightened Sex" by David Deida and finding it very interesting. It really speaks to the issues that several of the women here have discussed about why it seems different to be the HDW. We have tried to explain it a thousand ways - Deida talks about the feminine desire for "ravishment." This is what the ladies here are talking about when we talk about pursuit. His description is exactly what we are talking about as is his description of the feminine desire to be filled. I thought of Lou's LDW when he mentions shopping as one thing that fills that desire. Through his descriptions I can see some things that I might work on. Even if it doesn't help - the concepts in the book are very sexy. My H likes books on tape - he might even listen if I mention it.
The title of this post is actually a little joke but if I could work one concept into H's subconscious it would be this one "Ravish me please."
