I have a pretty clear idea of what the endpoint would look like. The problem is that I think the current "improvement" might be more despite my efforts than because of them. I'm just not sure. If I describe the endpoint to H I think it will do more harm than good. If I just figure out the endpoint that is fine for my own information but what I am really hoping for is something along the lines of "continuous quality improvement." I do think that some things go well as "whispers in the dark" now that we are in a better place with each other. I will try it and see. I guess I just feel confused because I'm not sure what caused our improvement and I would hate to derail it. I also don't want to be a "sexual nag" but as JJ said I'm not really willing to provide too many accomodations for an imaginary sexual disability. After all, H gets over his personal anxieties about many, many things without my help. He is capable of dealing with those surrounding sex. By the same token, I must deal with my own fears that infrequent sex creates because there is nothing sexy about anger, fear and anxiety. KWIM?
