The nice thing about being out of the desperate phase and having a workable H is that you can approach new goals with more positivity and finesse ( not that I do this,lol). You have a good idea of your " wants' and they certainly seem reasonable, as is your " slow boat" way of thinking.
On the tapes MWD talks about taking the time to think about what the endpoint is---what would success in your M look like? I know in different areas of our lives H and I have gotten caught up in the pursuit of joyless perfection, so you just want to make sure you're not on that destructive track ( which sounds like you're not).
