Chrissy... Myabe your H can try Wellbutrin... no problems with O with that medicine ( and can even make the O's more intense). Then again, your H is the HD one, so maybe it's not such a good idea...he would be chasing you down all day!
And you are right--- I was the LD one throughout most of the marriage, for various reasons; having kids was the final nail in the coffin. I went through many changes when I turned 40 and was able to rekindle my desire, only to find that H had mixed feelings about reconnecting with me. It's hard to understand why we stayed together so long....I guess both of us had parents with miserable marriages and we just went with the program. I have been able to shake things up with my new-found sexuality ( unfortunately it's still easy for me to land in LD land so I have to work at this) and H now tries to meet me half-way, but he still pulls a lot of controlling and distancing measures. I keep trying to move ahead in my growth all the same, and get a lot of support and encouragement on this board.
As far as jumping his bones...it's a tricky one because he doesn't seem to like overt displays which make him feel pressured, but if I get to a naturally exuberant place and can withstand the possible rejection, I'll go for it!
