Journey, Being a typical type 7, I don't instinctively know what people need when they are feeling down. The only thing my mind can come up with is to cheer them up! Isn't that pitiful.
Do you think you could come up with a list of things that you would like your H to do? That might get him thinking in the right direction.
Because on one hand, the replies are: Your h is not responsible for your moods, but on the other there are concrete things that you are wanting him to do when you get down.
It sorta comes off as "I'm not responsible for the fact that you are down, but I'm responsible for cheering you up." Kwim?
Perhaps one way to handle it would be to look inward during these down times and pinpoint what would help you and communicate that to H.
Truly, Journey, I think he'd jump at the chance to help you. He just may not instinctively know what to do. The fact that he's a dude is going to work waaaay against you now isn't it. lol
As a woman, I think I'd know ways to cheer you up, but it would not be instinctive for me to give you space. That seems cruel to me.
Isn't it funny the way the different types approach a situation!
anyway, just wanting to offer my perspective since I believe your husband and I share the same personality type.
