My suspicion is that he would absolutely want to help you with your moods if he knew for certain that it wasn't always *him* causing them, kwim?
Sometimes, too, I think a blue mood just hits me and then I go LOOKING for reasons why my husband is behind it. That has to be frustrating for him, as well.
Can you communicate with your H via email? I've found this to be a great tool with which to deal with these situations. I email him and tell him how I'm feeling and then it gives him some time to formulate his own strategy. Otherwise I think he drives home, excited to see me, and walks in the door to a sullen wife. Then his disappointment (at that sight) becomes my own, and makes me disappointed in him, and so on.
