IHJ, what you're describing is also a 4 thing-- 4's can feel blah and moody and just want acknowledgment without a big deal. I was reading an enneagram BB earlier and a 4 on there said sometimes all she needs is for her SO to sit down, take her hand, and look into her eyes for a minute... without even saying anything. When 4's get in that place (if I may generalize) they can feel cut off, like Sylvia Plath under the Bell Jar. Just some simple, wordless, no-strings, compassionate human contact can help us feel connected again. When you're around someone who makes your moods "about them," it can be aggravating and counter-productive.
