Chrissy,
When you say you have been rejected, are you talking about in another relationship? Or was there a time when your H was LD?
Or are you just saying that he has turned you down from time to time?

I suppose the kind of rejection I am talking about is a long term type thing. There is simply no way to imagine that unless you have lived it. To know that your H, while he finds you attractive, could take you or leave you is very damaging to a woman's sense of self. If I were to flash my H in the manner you described, he'd think it was gross.

But, anyway, now you've got me curious: Were you ever the HD partner in your marriage?