Chrissy, Try not to worry too much if your H gets hard without you. Many many times my LDH gets hard from everyday things, which have nothing to do with me, but he always turns to me to take care of it. Heck, every time I feel horny I am not thinking of my H--I'm sure you'd say the same thing.
I know what you're saying because I'd like my H to get hard from ME, from what I do and how I look and act, etc etc. But that's just not reality!
Knowing that I am his first thought when he does find himself hard is good enough for me.
Oh and the trying to talk an LDH into doing it spontaneously "now" instead of the chosen night is no different than if your H tried grabbing you and playfully saying You can have it tonight or tonight and tomorrow night.
Say, how WOULD you react to that?
I think on some nights my H would say, You're on!! and we'd have loads of fun with it. Other nights it would irritate him. I'm just not enough of a mind reader to guess so I avoid the situation altogether.
Just like you, I'm a woman and I DO NOT LIKE to be rejected.
Well that's enough of that seriousness this early in the morning.
