I've been feeling very LD lately, for a variety of reasons, and unsatisfied with the "tone" of our ML. Just kinda unsatisfied with everything--myself, him, and "us". I haven't said anything because there are quite significant areas in which I am not doing my part and until those are fixed, I have no right to b*tch.

So I was curious to see how others handled the off days. I'm pretty good on the first off day and even the second. By the third, I'm feeling totally disconnected and as if he couldn't drum up desire for me if the world depended on it.

Today is the third day, so I've got a little action plan going. Firstly, I went back to weight watchers last night. I am indeed 2.5 lbs heavier than I was 2 months ago. I want to get a handle on this. Secondly, I went back to the doctor this week to get the pelvic pain sorted out. Thirdly, I dressed sexy as hell today, wearing my new VS thong (in an orchid shape, very pretty), a short skirt and a tight shirt. MrH will either love it or feel icked out by it. His reaction, nothing I can do about it. I feel damned good right now. Finally, I emailed him and told him that I dressed up for him and to please acknowledge me when he sees me so that I don't feel invisible. He wrote back that he can't wait to feast on me when he gets home, which I thought was a very sexy thing to say. (by the way, I did not phrase it in the negative way I did here, I was all lightness and flirting in the email)

I realize this last part was controlling, J, in telling him that I'm dressed for him, but I've had 100 too many incidents where I do dress for him and he won't say a word. Then on a different day he'll say, My number one fantasy is for you to wear a short skirt. I'll say, H!! I do that and you don't acknowledge it! He replies, Yeah but I did notice it...
Sigh.

So I was trying to avoid that scene and yes I am being controlling. Hey Rome wasn't built in a day.

Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you for the response. I am just as responsible for the off days as he is. Just because his responses are slight, does not mean that I should always stifle myself.
IOW, I need to take my own advice once in a while.