Scott... Part of the problem is that H would do something that HE wanted to do, and then seek me out for praise, trying to act as if it were something I wanted. Sometimes I didn't even want him to get absorbed in some project because it would take away from QT we could be having together. He'd immerse himself in what he wanted to do and then want my approval. ( wow HP... I just realized one source of my resentment).
He and I have come a long way... we now make plans for QT and he checks in more when doing a project. We never really negotiated our free time very well, and somewhere along the line I accomodated to his schedule. Projects are his way of escape, and I felt left out, or he would get involved and it was hard to connect with him to do other stuff.
Anyway... I do recognize that I have been withholding in the WOA area and am going to make some changes.
