Journey, I am responding here so as not to hijack JJ's thread any longer.
I want you to know that, though I'm organized now, I used to be a MESS. I couldn't keep house, balance a checkbook, be on time, nothin. My H helped me get on track and stay on track.
Unfortunately, he still has this mental image of me, sometimes, as this fcuk up type person and he can really sting with his critical words and "you are like THIS" comments. I haven't been like THAT in years, close to 10 now, so I resent those comments.
And I do agree with Jenny. My type 7 personality doesn't really notice or care about fine detailing on projects that don't concern me in the first place, such as dusting. But I do the bangup job because I want my H to be happy and proud of me. These are things that matter to HIM, so it seems quite natural to me to want him to notice and say something.
As far as praising for jobs well done, well, again I am challenging you (feel free to tell me to back off ) to look inside and figure out why you would praise your kids for doing something that needs to be done, but not your h.
Even a "hey thanks!" is WOA, in my book. Or "that looks nice". Short and sweet and simple. Not lavish or anything but enough to keep him coming back for more.
Lemme ask you this: If a friend does something nice for you, do you praise them for it?
Just some WOA food for thought.
I liked your post about your daughter's camp. It gave me lots of food for thought. My oldest is 5 and is not strong in social situations--she's still learning. I have had to force myself to back off and let her learn these lessons on her own. It's SO hard. So I read your update with keen interest.
I especially liked how your husband opened up to you about his own childhood and how he was like her. It's moments like these that really draw the two of you closer, eh.
) to look inside and figure out why you would praise your kids for doing something that needs to be done, but not your h.
