Quote: I guess if your H is initiating sex but he's doing it because he knows that you want him to he would be in a state of arousal somewhere in between being the initiator or the initiatee. Does this make any sense?
Yes, and it's a good description of what is happening. We're ML every few days and he makes sure to let me know it's on his mind...I leave the exact timing to him, but even in doing that, he is not too aroused bc it's still pressure, in a way.
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BTW: I wish my H would be more willing to initiate without a raging hard-on. This would eliminate his need for the porn "crutch". IMO it's much more intimate to become aroused together anyways.
What a nice way to look at it...I guess I have been feeling insecure about it all, and bc an aggressive style does turn me on. Time for me to be more flexible and have more connection and fun.
