Quote: Journey, lemme ask you this: When your husband does show desire, how does he do it and what do you do in return?
HP... He has gotten a lot more open about expressing his desire. As I mentioned earlier, he will make suggestive comments or grab/squeeze me; he'll discuss when he'd like to ML and is making it clear he wants a sexual connection...I guess what's missing is the arousal part of it all. He feels desire for me but the arousal takes longer, and this is what gets me upset. I would be very excited if he pressed into me and I felt his hardness against me, but that never happens. Is there anything in SSM about arousal following desire?
Earlier this evening after coming home from work, H asked me to lay down and take a rest with him and I did...he initiated kissing and all and some feels, then left it at that. He asked when to ML and we decided tomorrow nite...all of this is wonderful and I am not complaining( okay I am complaining but just here). I miss the lustful spontaneity of it all.
As far as what I do in return, when we are in bed I tend to follow his lead...I don't want to overwhelm him if he isn't up for anything. I get aroused by his desire but I let him decide how far it will go. I could do a better job of showing desire for him in small ways when we are out of bed to make him feel wanted but not put upon.
