I think you and I are more alike, in that respect. I do not like pretty boys at all.
I do want my H to find me sexy for all the reasons you listed, but I also want (and I confess, expect) him to find me physically attractive as well. I take extra pains to stay attractive. There is a part of me that expects that he will appreciate this in a way that is more demonstrable than, It is better than if you did not do that.
My H is not a paragon of physical perfection. I don't expect him to be, either. He doesn't expect me to be physically perfect and I'm far from it.
What I would like is for more of his sexual desire to be based on appreciation for what I do to stay attractive for him.
My desire for him is multi faceted. It is not solely due to his physical appearance, nor is it solely due to his wonderful personality. It is the whole package. I would like more of the "whole package" experience in return. I love knowing that he finds me sexy in a vague and "you're my wife, who else would I find sexy?" way but it would do wonders for me if I knew that when I walked across the room in short shorts, it stirred something in him.
