I think you should really take some time to think about that preference and about if it is something you want to pursue or not. It is far too easy to disregard it and say, Oh phooey on him..I'm fine just the way I am...but isn't that the very same attitude we are trying to eliminate in our mates? Listen to him and decide what level of thinness you are comfy with and if you are currently at that weight, then celebrate it, my sister.
I think it is all well and good to talk about sexual confidence because that is an important component but I believe what you are getting at is good old fashioned lust from your partner. I need that too.
It is friggin biology, as far as I'm concerned. You see all these female birds chirping especially pretty or female dolphins flipping around oh-so-sexily all in the hopes of attracting their male counterparts. We human females are no different. Physical attractiveness to our mates is a big component of the sexual dance. When it's gone..or covered up because of shyness or whatever...there is a big gaping hole in the process, one that even differentiation can't bridge, imo.
I both need my H to find me physically attractive and I need him to be able to show it in a way that is meaningful to me. That means, in a nutshell, that I'm sick of guessing whether the glance he just shot my way means he likes the extra effort I put into myself or I have a smashed up cheerio on my shirt. I'd like to see just a bit more definitive-ness in his actions/words so that I know that the desire is there.
I am thrilled that he has chosen me for his life partner and that his world would be empty without me. Now, if I only knew that he found me hot, I believe I'd be quite satisfied with my life!
Journey, lemme ask you this: When your husband does show desire, how does he do it and what do you do in return?
