I know when I get too "appearance" focused that other stuff is going on for me inside, and it's time for some self-care. I know I am angry with my brother for not helping out more with my parents, and I am feeling guilty about my own need to be more selfish. I have to find that place of being healthily assertive in a few of my relationships, including with H, and not just take it out on H. The best way to sort out this emotional stuff is to follow Michele's advice and set a few small goals that are doable in the near future, so I'm working on that and hopefully will build on positivity.
