Just noticed that you posted here. I hope everybody in your family is safe and well after Thursday's bombing. My prayers are with you and all British. Don't know if I ever mentioned but I spent some very happy childhood years in England (lived both on and off US military bases) where my dad was stationed twice. In fact, I was born in England and have dual citizenship as a UK and US citizen (have a British birth certificate and a US Consular Report of Birth Abroad).
Just a quick note about the vibrators--H and I tried a couple out for fun but neither of us liked using them while ML. The "toys" or "aids" we regularly use are the Liberator pillows (especially since it gives us more face to face positions, which is our preference once again, as it facilitates kissing, eye contact, and tallking), lubricants, oils for massage, silk scarves and decent quality faux pearls made of glass (use your imagination).
Again, my prayers are with you.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis