Funny that the HD ladies on here are not huge purchasers of "toys" - there are several sites you can look at with ratings on things like quietness and intensity. www.goodvibes.com is one, even www.drugstore.com has some. I don't have any because my fingers and imagination seem to more than do the trick but I have thought of getting one just for fun. If I were you I might consider one of the "fingertip" variety - not so daunting.
