The rabit may be too much, AGREED! Some are very good indeed and it can be almost more than a guy can compete with. "Spoilers" if you will.
Consider a glass textured dildo with slow, gentle application. The temperature change is very interesting and allows for much eye contact and personal melding vs the "drugged effect" of an extreme stimulator.
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
