Looking for advice.

[Fighting4Wife]

Well I have been here for 4 months in the Newcomers section. Am struggling a little with where my sitch is. I love all my friends in the section, do not get me wrong, am looking for some advice from those who are or have been in my sitch.

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Finding the Oasis in the Desert

Details:
Me 38
W 37
Married 12 years yesterday together 14
3 sons (9, 6, 3)

Bomb dropped 4 + months ago
Discovery of her PA 2+ months ago and been working on M since the next morning.

I am struggling with the pain and trust issues that are a result of the whole PA deal. I am deeply in love with my W and ant this M to work. Just stuck in what and how I am doing thigs. KLA 2005 group helping (THX SG) but could also use some other ideas from DBers.

[natrobsun]

I'm not sure how much help I can be as I am kind of in the same boat. Found out about OW 6 weeks ago yesterday. My H is still home & says he's not seeing her anymore but I'm wondering too about things I'm doing & saying. Seems like everything I do or say wrong. One thing he seems to respond to is when I back off. When I stop calling him & paging him to make sure he is where he says he is, I've noticed he'll call me. If you are still obsessing, I have found that it is not good, for you or your M. I know it's easier said than done. I am still waiting for my DB books to come in the mail and hoping they will help. Did you order the books? Best of luck to you & I'll keep you & your M in my prayers.
natrobsun

[Fighting4Wife]

Natrobsun,

I have DR, the Keeping Love Alive CD's and Sex Starved Marriage. Along with 5 love languages and rekindling desire the library is getting exyensive. I have applied a lot of Michele's methods and they work. Just having some issues that I believe people in oour situations have. Looking for some thoughts or ideas of how they have coped. It is never a plan in a can but most ideas can be adapted to individual situations. Thanks for stopping by and the prayers. Good luck with you sitch. This BB is a god send at times for all of us here.