Hi DNO, thanks for responding, it's always nice to talk with you!

Just because your marriage was not saved, doesn't mean that you were not a success. I hope that no matter what, you hold your head up high knowing you did all you could to try to save it. Your H is a goober in my opinion, and it doesn't sound like the man you D is the man you married. That man is still with the aliens.

I think mine still is too. I think he's been in MLC for long before I ever met him. I've learned through family members when I was in his country of origin that he had a favorite aunt who believed (and I'm guessing that he grew to believe) that he never did wrong. The comment she would always say was "he's just misunderstood". I'm telling you, when I go to heaven, her and I are going to have a discussion! She has a lot to answer for!

Anyway, I'm not sure if he's ever going to grow up enough to actually admit to his mistakes and try to fix them instead of running from them, which is his past M.O. Not sure what it will take for that to happen. It is what is key for us to be able to discuss the problems and work them out. The first thing is he needs to acknowledge the problems, the true problems.

I stopped seeing my C last fall. I was seeing her for 3 years, but got to where it wasn't helping much. Have been thinking about finding another, one who is more solution-based. We'll see.

I'll have to work on the flirting thing. Not sure I remember how! Time to work on my PMA and GAL. My GAL starts tomorrow, I was asked to go to a Nascar race with a girlfriend of mine! She got tix through work for suite tix that include food and pit passes! We are able to take our older sons, too. It ought to be a lot of fun!

Thanks DNO for the advice, I truly appreciate it! Talk soon!

JL

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