Kim... You know, amidst all these positives, there are reality issues...like bills and such. I mean, how do you keep DBING and being nice and patient, when the WAS doesn't seem to really care about the REAL issues? I mean I want to live in the clouds and all. Validate, be nice, no R talks etc etc...but what about BILLS???? *sigh* I think I just backslid a wee bit...I text H about his mobile bill. The mobile company called me up to harp me about payment, and I just paid his bill 2 weeks ago (which he still owe me the $$), and another one is due? The amount is more than the last one. I texted H to tell him that he need to check if the bill is correct when he gets back (since he changed the billing address from our home to his office...so that I can't check the number of times that he calls OW!! ). H texted back and said "will check when I get back...trying to sleep now.". Do you think he sounded upset?? I left it at that. Didn't re-text to badger him.

I really want to keep up with being nice and patient and calm, but I really get so upset when I am encountered with bills and more bills. And H is out there spending money and more money. Had a call from his credit card company trying to get me to verify that he is indeed overseas. I've kept quiet sofar, since if I do voice out about his spending, he will get upset. What should I do with regards to all this? I don't want all these issues to un-do all the positives, but it does need some resolution. Anyone has this kind of issues with their WAS? I think one of the reason that we got ourselves to this sitch is also financial issues...Should I just say something like "I am concerned with our financial situation, and I would like you to propose some plans to improve the situation". Or what? I would love to hear from anyone who has the same dilemma. I am a little scared that all these reality issues are gonna make H retreat back and be unhappy about us again. I can see why the OW is soooo good, no talk about bills! Which I am sure she contributed a whole lot of the transactions in the credit cards and phone bills...

*sigh*...Would love to hear some positive methods to resolve these issues... ANyone??