Kim - Thanks for the encouragement... Unfortunately, OW is away with him. I don't dare to even think if they do creep into each other's room. Geez...I don't want to go there. I think H will only have the chance to be alone when he moves overseas for his new job. Hopefully, once he starts with his new job, he will not have anything much to discuss with OW, since it's a different industry. I am counting on us needing to discuss about the boys' well-being to keep in-touch while he is away. I want the boys to know that their daddy has not abandon them. I told H about the boys' concern that daddy is moving away forever, and tried to explain to the boys that daddy would still visit during weekends or the boys can visit daddy weekends and holidays.... H told me that he's gone shopping and bought some games for S8. Not too sure if he is using material stuff to "buy" into his sons' affections?? Anyway, I know I have to keep to my DBING efforts and not derail too much. I need to DRAW him back to wanting this M. I am counting on his new job (or rather old job? H is going back to his old job) for me to have something to talk about with him... (his current job, I do not know much to talk/discuss about)...his tasks, his coworkers, the company's culture, blah blah blah.... hopefully, we will be able to re-connect on this level (other than s@x??!??? ).. I know for sure that OW will not be able to follow him per se...because of work permit issues, as you would need to include marriage certs to be a dependent in the foreign country. If she were to go, it would have to be that she found a job there, or she visits him weekends. I will have to seize any opportunity for boys to visit rather than OW. But, doing it subtly and not pursuing...

Trying to Stay POSITIVE for me!!