I agree with Anna...sounds like your H is afraid of rejection so he won't come right out and ask you to come...he's waiting for you to ask...but probably not a good idea to do that.
See what the next 2 weeks will be like...don't text him, let him miss you, or keep him guessing why you aren't calling him...it will peak his curiosity and he'll probably end up calling you more.
As for snooping..it's so hard not to do. i did it this week too as I was cleaning around the house. I moved H's gym bag but also looked inside...found house keys that are not ours. These appeared after H had spent 4 nights away ( b/c he didn't want to be here for my BBQ with friends )...so I guess OW gave him easy access to her place while she had to work on that weekend. It sucks when we find out these things, but for me sometimes it is a good reality check...I don't get my hopes high when H starts showing postives with me b/c I have confirmation that he is still actively involved with OW. That's how I choose to look at it ( usually after I've calmed down after the initial shock and anger ). Okay...your H lied to you about where he was for his Bday...but did you honestly think he would start magically telling the truth overnight?? Use it as a reality check...it helps keep you detached and moving along slowly with caution. ( My H earlier this week looked like he wanted to ML with me...and who knows maybe I would have caved if i hadn't seen the keys already...I knew he is still with OW, but keys to me say that their R is speeding up, not slowing down...so to ML with H would have been a big backslide for me ).
