thanks Gabe and Scotti. Hey Scotti, are you checking up on us? Haven't heard from you in a while. Oh yeah, I've been absent too.
This stupid D thing has had one seemingly positive effect - my bambinos seem to be maturing faster than I expected. They were over for dinner again last night. Good conversation, grades are gettin back where they belong at school. S15#1 started to complain about some trivial thing XW did and I turned that around. "She's working hard to support you guys; yeah, I'm helping, but she's doing alot more than she used to have to. Cut her some slack and think about how you COULD BE HELPING instead of whining". After further discussion I think he is beginning to get the idea that I'm not going to let him get away with bitching.
Yup, I still love her and I think I understand how hard it is for her to do it all. I find no solice in the fact that "she asked for it". The kids need to do their share and they can't run to me and avoid the responsibility.
I'm following Gabe's suggestions and trying to gently move her into a more friendly atmosphere. I haven't even heard her voice for a month, so we are really detached. I think she needs the space and I'll give her all the room she wants. I may test the waters after the holidays and see how she reacts. Meanwhile, it is GAL.
