I just read your thread and found that you also have twin 15 YO sons like me. And like mine, twin #2 is the one who suffers quietly.
My sit started nearly 3 years ago and my baby boy took it hard. His grades suffered and he became very lazy. I just wanted to tell you that now that my D is done. I make every effort to be pleasant around his father and he is nearly back to his old self. We don't discuss the D or what happened. It's in the past.
When people say they'll "be just fine", they have no idea how hard it is for kids this age. They can end up ok, but it takes a very long time. All you can do is let them live through it. One of the things I did to keep communication open was to sign up for fantasy leagues. We could joke and laugh and be competitive with one another there. I think a turning point was last year when twin #2 won the fantasy football league championship and I went and bought him a t-shirt telling the world he's a champ.
He was so happy. It had been such a long time since I'd seen that particular smile from him.
Just hang in there with him. You will see him come around if he doesn't feel as if you're sad all of the time. They sense the sadness and project it onto themselves.
