Spoke with my lawyer yesterday afternoon. His take: they are asking way too much and no court would ever fall for it. This is just their negotiating starting point.
He said, "Let's let them stew about this for a while, we've got 30 days to respond." He asked me if I thought we could reconcile and I said I hoped, but didn't know. He said to think about it and let him know in a couple of weeks. If I think we've got a chance of working things out he'll delay the conclusion of this 6 or 8 months. If it is going badly at home he'll close a deal quickly.
She was pleasant when I got home last night. I don't think she knows I have received the D papers yet, it takes a few days for the sherrif's report to work back through the system. She is probably awaiting an explosion but it an't gonna happen.
I have been advised previously on this BB, and I think it is true, that I have been focusing too much on her. I'm changing me, but then I focus on her to see if she reacts and she feels the pressure. I now detach and go on about making myself and my kids happy.
One problem...July 22 is our 18th anniversary. Do I do something? Nothing? Suggestions?
Suggestions? 
