Too bad you are where you are. Wes makes some very sound points. Considering your W's age she certainly could be having an MLC. There are several books on this subject. It is a long, crazy process and you will have to stay patient and focus on yourself in dealing with it.
There are success stories even after D scattered here and there. They tend to be few, in my opinion, because the LBS gives up and moves on. But then I may be crazy .
The people on this forum are positive and supportive but ultimately you have to draw on your own inner strength, convictions, and your love for yor WAW to keep you going. Suffice it to say that every week or so, even every day, I go through phases of anger and frustration at my WAW, but when I see her I feel how deeply I love her and I also feel a great deal of compassion for her suffering. And I have a D3 that I want to protect. So those are my main reasons for continuing to stand my ground after 2 years. It has been a ride through hell for me and no end in sight in the immediate future. I am not expecting any miracles or "aha" moments from my W. Progress has been glacial, and sporadic so far, but I know deep inside that she still does care about me and she knows it too. That is all I have to go on.
You need to reflect and decide what you want to do. And then follow the path that you have chosen. You are going to get upset and angry and you can always vent here.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
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