I guess I'm in transition at this point. I have been posting on Newcomer because I had hope. I was DB'ing like mad and actually thought I recognized some baby steps. I thought I was making progress.

Brief history: W 49, Me 57, D17, S15#1, S15#2 "The bomb" was dropped on me February 10, 2005. This past Tuesday she handed me a blue folder with the divorce papers from her lawyer.

She had health problems that are just about cleared up. Lost her job due to her health but looks like she has landed a good one starting July 5. So, the divorce paperwork that had been on her attorney's computer with just the dates blank since March was completed and dumped in my lap.

We are still living together, but she wants me out by July 1. Told her that would be too soon but I will take the paperwork to my attorney and we would review and comment.

At this point it feels like she has been playing me along just to keep her meal ticket until she was ready to move me out. For this reason I'm not so sure this forum is the right place for me . I don't want to be "done", but I think that decision has been made for me.

I just don't see me stopping the D and I don't know if I could take it seeing her occasionally and not being married. And seeing her dating OM would really be hard for me to take. There aren't alot of areas for entertainment here and it would be quite likely we would run into each other in the "dating scene".

So, fellow DB'rs, how are you handling the sitch after D? Are you still trying to win back you S or have you given up? Anyone see any success stories that yield even a ray of hope