Quote: Here is a deal - Give him "sense of loss" - he can lose you too !! ( and not calling not answering isn't giving him that!!) --- At least you will come to know -
In a sense, my writing the letter stressing no contact is giving him a sense of loss. I think H can sense how serious I am. I did not write this letter to be vindictive or threaten him into coming back. I simply could not take it any more. I have reached the end of the rope of being in a three person M.
I respect what you were trying to say but I am not so sure that 'trying to show the spouse what you are missing' approach is the best one for my H.
I have been reading your situation and will comment on it later today.
