H called yesterday. I need to work out a strategy for dealing with communicating with him.
Keep myself very busy so if he calls/emails, I will have something to talk about and more importantly, if he asks D, then she will also be able to talk about all the things we've been upto. This will send good thoughts about us his way.
On the phone - if he calls speak with a smile. I will ask him about his work and how it is going. But I wont ask about what else he's been upto as I dont want him to feel as if I am checking up on him. The hard part will be acting 'as if' he is telling the truth if I suspect he's not.
Email - keep it short and simple - mirror his writing style.
Thinking about my post yesterday, going away just as he comes back would be thoughtless, selfish and cruel. I think I will not make plans to go away beginning of August. However, I will give it a couple of weeks after he comes back and if he seems to not want to use the time to spend with D and me, then I will take time out to get away for myself. I see this as not relying on him to get my needs met.
