perhaps, but have you listened to her to see how she feels? She may not come right out and say it, but I'm sure if you guys talk you can at least get some hints that can steer your discussion so that you can gather info too. Communication is a 2 way street. You need to listen too. I am 100% sure she is hurting too, perhaps even more than you. Do you recognize that? Have you listened to her to try to understand her pain? NoCoincidence posted on here with some morsels that might help nudge you in the direction to open a conversation. I don't know if she is MrsChoc or not, but she does seem to feel she is just like MrsChoc. If she is MrsChoc, you've got a golden opportunity to open a dialog with her...she's reaching out to you. If she is not MrsChoc, you've still got a golden opportunity to dialog with someone who feels she is in a very similar place as MrsChoc.
Choc, again, before you make any progress you gots to let go of that anger and resentment. Open your heart, your eyes and your ears and hear what she's got to say, feel her pain and share yours in a loving way.
