Quote: Last friday and today I too had to almost rip my heart out and lay it on the line. It hurt BB both times. I did not want to do that but did not know how else to move foward. Maybe it did some good.
OG, I hope it did some good, too. When you force yourself to push through another one of *those* conversations, I think presentation means a lot (whether or not it is well received initially). When NOP did calm, reserved, yet overlaid with warmth convos, those went the deepest and stayed the longest.
For those spouses who aren't seeming to work on the relationship, it's probably because they've grown accustomed to being totally wrapped up in themselves, their issues, their hurts, resentments and miseries or maybe just their own interests. And from that space, it is very easy to objectify your spouse and ignore or fail to see what *they* may be going through.
Those conversations, painful though they are, are instrumental in getting your spouse to actually look at and consider *you*.
