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I'm not willing to do this, and I wouldn't enjoy it that way. If a guy who's doing his part to be a good dad and a good husband and a great provider can't expect his wife to "enthusiastically respond to me," then what the hell is the point?




Choc, have you told her this? Have you told her how much you are hurting and that you feel like you are the only one putting any effort into the R? She may know this in the bottom of her heart, but needs you to call her on it. Why should she put in effort if she either feels you are comfortable enough with the status quo or if she feels like the gap between what is and what you want it too large (two different extremes here). You gotta talk with her, and I'm not talking about what did the kids do or not do today or what Aunt Matilda said. I'm talking about you baring your soul to her. It is very hard to do, but without doing that I don't think theres a snowball's chance in He!! that she's going to feel your pain enough to be motivated to do anything about it. No, I wasn't referring to the snowball talked about on the other thread the other day either ...if that were the case, then it would be stated something like not having a snowballs chance of happening...

Buck up and talk to her man, it is the only way you are going to get the ball rolling. Oh, and another hard thing to do: try to push that resentment and anger out of the way. Both of them get in the way of clear communication. Have you considered going to a WWME weekend? It really did do wonders for MrsGGB and me.