Quote: But things aren't normal. You want her to meet you halfway, but obviously she isn't going to do that right now. You step out halfway by making arrangements for the game, then place the ball in her court and she just stands there and doesn't pick it up, you then wander off the court with another owwie in your heart.
It's not fair, I know. I think my question is whether or not you can make the effort to go beyond what is fair or equitable for a period of time? Also, you'll have to let go of your expectation for her to enthusiastically respond to you and whether you can enjoy it if you have to drag her there.
MrsNOP, I guess my honest answer is that I'm not willing to do this, and I wouldn't enjoy it that way. If a guy who's doing his part to be a good dad and a good husband and a great provider can't expect his wife to "enthusiastically respond to me," then what the hell is the point?
I also think that my "period of time" is long over -- BT, DT. She has to show me something at this point. Just a "I am sad, we need to work on this" or a "I know we tried this before, but can we try again?" would go a long way to rekindle my desire to start the hard work that still lies between us and a healthy marital and sexual relationship.
