Quote: I had told both of these people what I wanted. One was willing but forgetful (and factor in broken relationship) and one was forgetful but not willing.
Which one fits your wife?
If I had to pick one, I'd say that she is willing, but forgetful, but I don't think either fits in her case. I think she is more aware of it, overwhelmed by other things, and therefor unwilling to deal with ANY of it, whether she remembers it at the moment or not. I think her thought process is more "I have four kids, and this house to take care of, and I don't get much help, and I can only give so much," altho in a quiet moment, I think she knows there's more than a little BULLCHIT in that.
Your analogy is appropriate, because -- as you know -- there HAS been this "dance" going on with us, centered around her looks/sexiness/youthfulness, etc. She is vain -- perhaps even narcicisstic -- and constantly fishing for compliments.
I have always been VERY attracted to her (altho much less so anymore), and she's still strikingly beautiful and looks more 33 than her 44 years.
But yet I always compliment her, and she never compliments me, and I am resentful. So I have very intentionally cut WAY back on my compliments of her appearance.
