You described quite a bit of my H as well...at least when it comes to physical affection. It's not that he won't do it or doesn't want to do it.....it's more like he simply forgets to do it.....if I ask, he's more than happy to comply. To his credit though, he's doing much better about remembering
Like you though, it really helped me to deal with this when I realized it wasn't that he was refusing to give me affection...in many ways he was merely forgetting I needed it, due to the fact that his past experiences shunned affection.
