Quote: What if you had to act like a woman in order to ML? Would you be okay with doing that for the rest of your life?
Since I’m not sure what you mean by acting like a woman, I don’t know how to answer that. I know you well enough to know that you want to see spontaneous desire and that you want to be pursued. I know that you want MrHP to bring the heat and the passion to the encounter at least half of the time – to light the fuse so to speak. If that’s being like a woman, then yes, I would be fine with that. I want to see desire from W. I want her pursue me, but like you, I’m a sure thing. I want her to bring at least an equal measure of heat and passion to our SL.
I know that this is getting off of the immediate subject, but your question got me thinking. Strange though it may seem, W is almost diametrically opposed to what I perceive as my ideal sex partner. Physically, I prefer average women: I like average height, I prefer an average to slightly reubenesque build over either thin or thick(?), I prefer breasts in the small to medium range, and although it doesn’t fit into the average category, I’ll admit to a penchant for redheads. W is five foot zero, weighs more than I do, was a DD-cup even before she started packing on the weight, and she had dark brown hair before it went completely grey in her late 20s. (It’s been colored a medium brown for years.)
But appearance is nothing when compared to non-physical factors. In that area, I want someone who enjoys frequent sex and who will seek it out. I want someone who will loosen up and enjoy the occasion. I want someone who sees sex as being fun. I want someone who is sexually confident and who is comfortable in her skin. What I have is just the opposite. W does enjoy the sex when she wants it, and on those occasions, she will seek it out, but that’s pretty infrequent. With all the rules you already know about, I don’t need to tell you that loosening up doesn’t appear to be in the cards. Sex between us is usually fairly mechanical and almost never fun. She has no sexual confidence, and seems uncomfortable with skin in general – hers or anybody else’s.
Like MrsGGB, W finds sex distasteful. She will do it, if what we do falls within her rules, but there always seems to be an undercurrent of unease and/or distaste. She doesn’t like sex or nudity in movies or books and frequently complains about it. She skips the sex scenes in books. She fast forwards through them on videos or DVDs. She invariably complains about them when she doesn’t have that option and almost always makes some disparaging remark about the bodies of the people involved. She goes to beaches in Europe and complains about the topless women. Definitely not comfortable with skin – regardless of whose skin it is.
I don’t know what that has to do with anything, but like I said, your question got me thinking. It kind of brings to mind an exchange between Gaston and LeFou in Disney’s Beauty and the Beast:
Gaston: LeFou, I’m afraid I’ve been thinking.. LeFou: A dangerous pastime… Gaston: I know.
